Mom Reads Proverbs 24

Hello,

I'm behind again---here's a key concept from Proverbs 24; note how the second verse is an elaboration upon the first:

"A wise man is full of strength, and a man of knowledge enhances his might,  for by wise guidance you can wage your war, and in abundance of counselors there is victory." Proverbs 24:5-6

"The wise are mightier than the strong, and those with knowledge grow stronger and stronger. So don’t go to war without wise guidance; victory depends on having many advisers.  Proverbs 24:5-6 NLT

No wise person wants to go to war, but sometimes war is forced upon us.  War is costly, and you want to be sure you've thought through the particulars to the best of your abilities and resources. 

When undertaking any decision of gravity, seek trustworthy counsel first.  What does wise counsel look like?  I look for people who know the Lord, who have discernment (look at their lives for evidence, but not necessarily their "title" or position).  Wise counsel is discreet and confidential. It makes time to listen carefully.

Good counsel doesn't always pat your back or affirm your thought process.  It should ask hard questions and be willing to ruffle your feathers. Though you may not agree with their ruffling in the final count, you will be farther along because of it.  Iron sharpens iron. 

Beware of those with easy answers or too quick solutions, those who over instruct, or minimize you or the decision. You want people who will walk alongside you, not talk down to you from their perceived heights. Good counsel is humble; it feels safe and supportive in spirit. Choose people who will lift you and your decision up in prayer; those who are willing to bear that weight too.

Finally, be sure you listen to and weigh the counsel you've sought. Counselors are giving up time and thought; be appreciative of their insights and time. Sometimes I know I've been guilty of seeking counsel merely to support and "check the box" on what I already want to do.  You will have your opinions of course, but keep your ears and heart truly open. Different perspectives enrich one's understanding, and we all have blind spots.  Like it or not, God designs it so that we need each other to do our very best work.

xoxo

Mom